JEFF: You obviously don’t get what “Sex Positive” means, because that isn’t it. That type of behavior is shunned by “sex positive” communities because, swinging or “the lifestyle” is based on openness, honesty, trust and respect for friends, partners and especially significant others.

Sex positive is about taking ownership of sex and your sex life. It means respect for others that do as well. Something the people here, attempting to do hatchet jobs, obviously just don’t get.

Good luck Sam, April, and Black Box! Keep staying positive.

As a sex-positive person, I admire their willingness to serve this kind of group. For a definition of sex-positive beyond their site look at http://pleasuresalon.wordpress.com/
“BDSM, swinger, alternative gender, LGBT, sex-activist, nudist, sex-magic, polyamory, Pagan, radical faerie, tantra, dark odyssey, sex-blogger, porn, pervert and sex-worker communities, and others whose passion is sex”

Think nerve.com, except the matchmaking pool won’t be diluted by timeout, salon, et al.

On the other hand, it is a Burning Man no-no to use the event for marketing or to even imply sponsorship and pushing that angle as hard as they have may get a backlash. Folks there use masking tape to alter the names on their rental trucks to naughty words, so it won’t seem like an ad. Camp Jiffy Lube had nothing to do with car care and was hated by the corporation of the same name, which you may understand when you learn it was later changed to Stiffy Lube.

I doubt the rainbow folks want their name used that way either….

And I wonder how soon the “gifting” process will be more abused than Amazon.com’s Wishlists http://boingboing.net/camgirls.html

as a burner, I am annoyed that they are making Burning Man part of their marketing.

Sex and touch in American society should be looked at directly. Its critically important for people to have safe, positive physical experiences in order to grow as a person. If Blackbox Republic creates a space for that, then great. My feeling is Sam and April will have to work hard to make something more than an adultfriendfinder.com or the casual encounters section on craigslist.

No, Jeff, that’s not what it means. What you described would be irresponsible and wouldn’t make you a lot of friends in a sex-positive community — unless of course your wife was in full agreement.

Transparency is strange phenomenon. Objections to the concept of “social swinger websites” aside, knowing the back-story with Sam’s life causes my brain to start filling in the gaps – I can’t help but think of Blackbox Republic (and the moral swiss cheese behind it) as a driver for some of the issues he detailed online.

I’m certainly not leveling some kind of pejorative assertion here as much as noting the connections transparency can lead to.

Does ‘sex positive’ mean leaving your wife and kids at home while you go to Burning Man to have a romp with your younger girlfriend?

Just curious, cause that sounds like ‘sex negative’ to me. Or at least father negative, husband negative, whatever.